Becoming a Student of the Important Things


There is some sound advice I give to couples during pre-marital counseling. Basically, it’s that “each of you needs to discover something important to your future spouse and become a student of it”.  It’s one of the ways we begin to invest in each other and it’s a purposeful effort to simply get to know each other better. What generally happens in the process is that when you show genuine interest is what’s important to someone, they will love teaching you about it and hearts become bound together.

In Matthew’s Gospel, chapter 23, Jesus is talking to the Pharisees about how little they know about what’s important to Him. In verse 23, He points out that they are doing an expected duty and calling themselves holy for doing it. For example, if I take out the trash while stating “this is how I’m proclaiming my love for you” to my wife, that doesn’t actually proclaim love.  There is an understanding in our house – I take out the garbage. It’s my job, it has to get done. I don’t get extra points for taking out the trash.

However, I know that my wife loves the work of certain artist who draws amazing trees in pencil. I surprised her last year with a trip to his studio where she got to meet him and choose a drawing for him to personalize. This action, this investment of my time and energy, spoke my love to her. And she joyfully received it. She felt loved because I cared about something she cared about.

Here’s what Jesus said, “you are careful to tithe even the tiniest income from your herb gardens, but you ignore the more important aspects of the law—justice, mercy, and faith. You should tithe, yes, but don’t neglect the more important things”. So what’s the point? Over the past several weeks, we’ve been talking a lot about knowing Christ and making Him known. I want to know Him more. I want to invest in our relationship. I want to connect my heart to His. I want Him to know I love to learn about and be involved in what’s important to Him.

He said we should tithe so we should, no question, but He also said He wants us to care more about what’s important to Him. That’s how we get to know Him better. That’s how we connect our hearts to His…knowing Him, so we can make Him known.

– Pastor Rob